AIO: this started when my husband messaged me this morning.

My husband messaged me with this video called the “BJ test” which basically says is your wife doesn’t give you head whenever you want it the relationship is over. I replied with “😑” and after sending another video he responds and says, “well you didn’t deny it”. So the following exchange happened. After my response he sends me what I think is another inappropriate and immature video. We are both in our 40s, three kids (two have special needs), and I do it all. He makes all the money but all the emotional and physical demands are put on me. And 16 years ago when I gave birth to our daughter and was healing from major abdominal surgery, he “made” me give him head. It was excruciating. And I’ve just never been the same since. I’ve shared this with him, but it just doesn’t seem to click for him. Also, the last time I gave him head he yelled at me for stopping to take a break because my neck hurt and told me I should look to Reddit for tips on how to give better head. Am I the one who’s not being reasonable?