AIO: my wife of 15 texted a guy she previously tried sneaking out with this…

Wife was drinking all night alone on the couch. In the morning I saw this text string. She texted around midnight. The following morning he woke up and google her number and the rest of the texts began. He responded around 7 and then 8am. She was asleep by this time. Then when she woke up at 11 she texted back and he called. I was home so she didn’t answer but told him by text she couldn’t talk and then said “Baby!!!” Via text. This whole time she was pretending to be asleep in our bed while I fed our children and cleaned up the kitchen and the couch that she made a mess on the night before when she was drinking alone until she passed out. Before showing her what I saw I asked if she was doing anything bad and she laughed at me and said no and that I was crazy. I showed her the messages and she got mad at me for looking at them. Please discuss, I am pretty upset, mad, and feeling betrayed because maybe 13 years ago she tried to sneak off to meet this guy but she ended up passing out on the couch and missed her Uber. She promised not to speak to him again. (We have kids together so I didn’t divorce her because our kids were pretty young). Now this comes about. She’s an alcoholic and right it’s pretty bad. Her cycle is to not drink for a while after getting a dui, or arrested for drunk in public, or for domestic violence. Then after a while she starts thinking it’s ok to drink kombucha which then leads her to think wine would be fine, then later mixed drinks and hard alcohol until the next catastrophe happens. Each cycle I tell her she shouldn’t drink EVER because she’s an alcoholic and the cycle is the SAME every time. It usually takes about 3-6 months from start to this point where she’s passing out, falling down and getting hurt, peeing herself, drunk texting guys she used to know, etc. She makes it seem like I’m the one with the problem. And I don’t drink at all because I support her sobriety.